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January 2, 2009

How I plan to take better care of myself in 2009.

As a first time mum of 1 and ttc number 2, there are a few things I would like to change this year. I want to come out of the other end of 2009 feeling like a mum instead of  trying to feel the way I used to feel before I had kids. Pining for those size 8 tops and skinny jeans to fit me again; remembering the admiring glances that always came my way from the opposite sex. How many stolen minutes have I wasted in front of the mirror, pinching in my waist line or glancing at a pre-baby photo of myself? Tracing the silvery lines on my, now dimpled, thighs and feeling slightly less attractive, less deserving of my partners love and affection. I want to allow myself to overflow with love for my babies and their daddy, feeling proud of what I have and never feeling remorse for the body or the lifestyle I left behind – and this is how I plan on doing it in 2009…The Year of The Mom.

1). I will use my baby’s nap’s as “me time” and not “housework time”, to read a book, to take a shower, to have a nap…to do whatever I need to do.

2). Every Sunday afternoon I shall retire to the bathroom for 2 hours and shower, shave, pluck, brush, tan and manicure to my heart’s content. That way I will feel a little more attractive and a little less dishevelled each week.

3). Each time I look at my love handles or silvery stretchmarks I shall remind myself that a body is meant to be used. What good is a perfect size 8 figure when your dead? May as well get some miles out of this vehicle!

4). I will keep a stash of luxury cookies in the top cupboard where no-one will see them and I shall reward myself with one whenever I see fit.

5). Each morning, before I take one step out of my bedroom door, I’ll get myself dressed, hair brushed, make-up on, feeling ready to start the day.

6). After a stresful day with the sproglet, I will no longer turn to a bottle of wine and snacks for comfort – I will find comort in the arms of my partner, snuggled up on the sofa together.

7). Never again will I feel pressured to take part in the fashion show that is baby and toddler groups. I will not join in the competition of who can look their best, full face of make up, fashionable clothes, uncomfortable shoes. Instead I will put on my joggers and t-shirt and get down on the floor with my baby and take part in his adventure!

8). For 1 evening each week, I will go to an exercise class, where I can get fit, meet new people and spend an evening just being me – not mum, not housewife, just me! 

If I can keep these things up this year I will be much happier, you know what they say….If mum’s happy, everyone’s happy 🙂

This is 2009 – The Year of the Mum.
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  1. That sounds like a fantastic plan. I hope you can stick with it. I especially love #7. Playgroups and other mommy/baby events are total fashion shows. Good for you for saying no.

    Comment by abbyjess — January 4, 2009 @ 12:03 am | Reply

    • I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like that about playgroups…I think that’s why I can’t be bothered to go sometimes. I haven’t got the time to wash my own clothes these days, let alone do a full top to toe! How do mum’s with more than one kid do it?
      Happy New year!

      Comment by Jennifer — January 4, 2009 @ 5:50 pm | Reply

  2. “I want to come out of the other end of 2009 feeling like a mum instead of trying to feel the way I used to feel before I had kids.” this goal alone is most commendable. it took me years and years and I’m still working on it. my oldest is 14. partly because I didn’t recognize what it was that I was feeling!

    you have a great list. here’s to the year of the mom (mum)!

    Comment by monica @ transplanting me — January 4, 2009 @ 4:46 am | Reply

    • Probably the hardest one to keep as well chick. I was hoping that feeling subsides but from what you’ve said I guess its a little harder than that. We must try as we can’t spend the rest of our days mourning the past. Don’t you just feel like a more mumsy version of yourself sometimes? Its like there are two me’s; one for my baby and then one for my partner. So emotionally confusing!

      Comment by Jennifer — January 4, 2009 @ 6:04 pm | Reply

  3. Amen!! It’s amazing when we moms actually take a few minutes for ourselves how outstanding we feel. This improvement helps everything, stress, sex life & dealing with those kids. You end up feeling like a proud momma vs a haggled crusty one & then you do appriciate being a mom. It’s always easier said than done though, best of luck in ’09!

    Comment by stephanie — January 4, 2009 @ 6:11 am | Reply

    • Its astounding what 5 minutes to yourself can do to isn’t it. I just think that I used to put my make up on and get dressed for work every morning so why shouldn’t I do the same now? I still work, after a fashion, and it makes me feel prepared for whatever the day is going to bring!
      I hope all the mums out there find some time for themselves each day. It reminds you that your not just a mum, but a person in your own right!

      Comment by Jennifer — January 4, 2009 @ 6:08 pm | Reply

  4. This is a great list! I need to apply #5 to myself too.

    Comment by Chalsey — January 4, 2009 @ 5:07 pm | Reply

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